7 Phrases That Confident People Use All The Time

Everybody wants to be secure. There is a huge difference between being confident and actually being secure.

True confidence comes from within. It is possible to feel it in others, as well as within ourselves. It communicates through our actions, how we speak and how we act.

These 7 phrases are used by confident people all the time.

1. I don’t know

People who don’t feel confident about themselves often pretend to be that way. Fearing that people will not take them seriously, they may try to appear safe.

Confident people don’t hesitate to answer questions honestly even if they don’t know what the answer is. “I don’t know but that’s a good question” is another variation of the I don’t know. It’s similar to “I don’t know but I’m going to find out”.

Many people believe that leaders must know everything at all times. This is a mistake. It is not necessary to be an expert in everything. You can still learn new things. It is important to be able listen to others who are more knowledgeable than you, and then make a decision.

Confidence does not mean having all the answers, but being comfortable searching for them.

2. Sorry

People who are insecure will often not say sorry because they see it as weakness. They will try to take responsibility and blame others, instead of taking it on themselves. They fear that saying “I was wrong” could be interpreted as “I am sorry.”

Conversely, confident people may say “I’m sorry.” I made a terrible mistake. Can we start over?” Or “I’m sorry. It’s just that I don’t know the consequences of what I said. I’d like to be able to do better the next time. What do you think?

Confident people are known for their ability to apologize when they make mistakes.

3 No

A complete sentence is “No”. This is a difficult phrase to say, especially if it was not allowed in your home. You are likely to be a person who is always trying to please others if you weren’t allowed to set healthy boundaries when you were a child or if you were punished.

We all have our limits. It takes practice to be able to say yes when you want it, and to say no with tactful but firmness.

Confident people practice good limits. They will say no when they are in need. They don’t feel guilty for saying no to others and understand that someone who rejects their boundaries in a disrespectful manner is the one who is wrong.

4. What are your thoughts?

Connection is the foundation of trust. Why is this? Why? Because you know that you will be rescued if you fall in the pool, you’re willing to jump in.

Confident people have the ability to communicate deeply and authentically. They ask “How are you?” They mean it.

5. I have something to share

Confident people speak. They will speak up even though they are aware that it may cause conflict. They don’t seek conflict but are capable of standing up for what they believe.

6. Yes, we are grateful

People who are confident know how to get things. They don’t exclude anyone. They are able to rely on their support network (friends, a loving spouse and a healthy family) as well as accept the help of their tribe. They are able to ask for help when needed. They know that it is not possible to do everything by themselves.

7. Please tell me more

Confident people don’t try to defend their opinions all the time. They listen to what the other person has to say and take the time to understand. They will try to understand if they don’t get it. They don’t assume that they are able to understand the point of view of another person; instead, they ask.